For most people trusting does not come easily. Quite often that’s because at some point trust has been betrayed or misplaced. Would you for example, entrust a car to a garage whose work proved unreliable in the past? Probably not however I’ve done that. Once I test drove a car. I trusted what the sales person told me. Later, after having bought it, I found I’d misplaced my trust! The car had been in an accident and was seriously compromised. On returning it the salesman was indignant. You are breaking your word, he said. Eventually I was given a refund.
Most of us intend to be as good as our word. The basic intention is to follow through on what we say we will do. In this way we prove ourselves reliable and worthy of being trusted. Thus everyday interactions are set within the background assumption to trust. Without that basic operating principle we would be lost in a maze of constant doubt and questioning.
However within that basic way of living, intending to trust and setting judgementalism aside, one is wise to exercise wise discernment. That’s to listen to those inner promptings and not buy the car or, out of habit, use an unreliable garage. Living with the basic intention to trust opens the door to hearing those inner promptings. Acting on them can be a huge challenge especially as it involves changing one’s mind, which means going back on one’s word.
This post is for somebody who has recently had to meet that challenge and for all who find it difficult to trust.